What I've Learned About Love

Despite everything I’ve been through, I still love love.

I'm a poet. I'm very passionate about my writing and what I write about. Love, mostly. How generic.

My thesis was a collection of poetry, titled "Still," where I wrote 27 poems about love. The good: letting go of someone toxic, loving myself instead.

The bad: heartache, sexual assault, being ghosted, feeling unloved and alone.

The ugly: obsessions and addictions -- obsessed with loving the idea of love / loving someone who was addicted to something that was killing them.

I won't sugarcoat it: I've been through some sh*t. I'm sure you have, too. We've all been there.

If you've managed to endure anything and everything you've been through, I applaud you.

I applaud myself for surviving, for standing strong. I truly didn't think I was emotionally stable enough to become the person I am today. Despite all the hurt, I still love love.

I've learned a lot of things about love. How to make myself feel better, how to turn the bad into something good. How to let go.

Everyone copes with heartbreak in their own ways, but if you need some tips + tricks or any help, do what I did:

Cry.

Seriously, just cry it out until you can't breathe.

Say "fuck it" and move on.

When I first started ~getting into the routine~ of being hurt (I'm not even joking), I just cried...a lot. As time has gone on, I've become stronger and my mindset is legit "fuck it. whatever." And I move on. I know I'm not losing emotions, but I do know I'm getting stronger.

Distract yourself.

Cuddle with a pet.

Go for a walk.

Maybe eat a snack and watch your favorite movie or TV Show. I usually eat a lot of chocolate and watch "The Dinner Party" episode of The Office. Or Dead Poets Society.

Create something.

Focus on that feeling, whatever it is. Work with it.

A friend of mine likes to draw. He texted me the other day and told me about how a girl had upset him, and then a few hours later, sent me a photo of something he was sketching. He channeled that anger, frustration, + sadness + put it into his art.

For me, I remember a moment I spend with someone, I write it down and just let it happen.

(See below for some of my favorite poems!)

Treat yo self.

Buy something you've always wanted. Go out and get a coffee or some ice cream. Spend a day at the library just because. Go shopping. Go to a concert. Treat. Yo. Self. to whatever makes you happy, even if it's just for a little while.

Remember: you are a bad ass.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

Remember you are powerful, strong, beautiful, talented, wonderful, and so much more.

You are not those who hurt you.

You can get through this. I know I did.